Glad to find this sight. Have been reading thru some of the forums and thought I would try to briefly bring out my sitch. Wife left 8 weeks ago without telling me what she planned. Was supposed to be visiting her family up north and spend a little time with them. Drove her to the airport and after arriving there a few hours later I get a call from her saying they were sending someone to come pick up her car and would I bring it to the local airport when the next night. I asked what was up and she hesitated but stated she was leaving me permanently, then hesitated again and said it was permanent. I asked what was going on and the last thing she said was a sham of a marriage. All I could do was ask why she was doing it this way and got no answer convo ended there. That was the last time we spoke directly. All seemed okay prior to this call but now I have come to find out this was probably planned several weeks in advance. Now, we had our issues and I realize I caused alot of them. Lack of employment, finances, a big one here a serious lack of intimacy (goes both ways though. I also became sloppy and put on some pounds while seeking viable employment. No excuses but was a very stressful time. We did not yell and scream at each other nor did we really fight. We cooked and served each other as always, watched tv together and had talks. But i do realize when she would say some things about our situation finacially and employment wise I would sort of just nod my head. So,the only contact we have had is via email. What few she sends me is very short and very cold and icy and only when she needs me to do something. I have tried being nice and talking but the same ice cold responses. And they are always only one or two sentences. Stupidly I did send a gift about 5 weeks ago and the response was and email saying "thank you, it's very nice". I have not sent any further emails in almost 2 weeks. I do send what few pieces of mail that comes to her. Theres more but I wont go into it at this time. My thing is yes, I know realize I caused the majority of this but, how can someone be so normal and even nice then in a few hours go so darn cold and not want to even speak with you?
I do know she realizes how I feel or felt about her Im starting to realize there may be no hope of her coming back. Tried an apology letter a month ago accepting the blame but no response to that either. Now she is 900 miles away working parttime and her family is footing most of her bills for her. I have also come to understand given the employment situaion and finances she was more than likely seeking security which she indeed seems to have found.
Im 55 she is 6o no children together. Married 2007, been together since 2001.
