One month down, zero casualties

[Raine]

His parents know about us, that we separated for seven months. They want us to be together and think this is a good sign he is back. His mom knows he is in a S bed. I don't think H would ever ask to share my bed, but likely would if I asked.

He said that stuff to ow4. He doesn't talk to me about anything like that and only says things to them if they ask when he is moving out. I think he mixes truth and lies. He's not going to tell them that he wants to stay here. Financial seems like a very good reason why. But also I do think he feels stifled again, like how he was before we separated. He has a secret life again. Truth is he kept it secret during S too. I'm guessing because he figures if I know, it's over. But here i guess he feels that he can't go out and be with ow and has to be sneaky and he is restricted here. I think that is a self inflicted restriction that he may like is in place. I don't think he always wants to be with them in a physical presence and he can use being here and me as an excuse. I think he is conflicted. He wants those other relationships and they are all still too fantasy. He may think they're real, but they're all secret and limited. He's not willing to give this side up yet either. Almost like he is wanting me to make the decision for him. And so he'll stay stagnant as far as that goes. His movements toward me probably are subconscious.

I don't think my H's ow get mad at him like yours does. My H doesn't promise them anything and has lots of excuses, from me to the kids to being too messed up.