Wife said she was done! House sold, Moving forward

[Maritimer]

Wow, a lot of similar interests. Also a lot of similarities in how I responded to similar questions. The 'she is also pretty' comment made me LOL. Some of your interests can be done on the cheap. Photography, just pack a bag and go for a hike. In my area they also have some nature walks for $5-10 where group of people go out with someone. Good way to meet new people. I miss my bikes and quads, boys are all up north this weekend.

Right on! I just got back from a 3 day backcountry run to Quebec and it felt great to get out with my buddies. Lots of time to think behind the helmet..

Since you brought up the co-dependent side I'll go there first, also because I used to be a card carrying member of the club. Have you read Co-Dependent No More? If not I recommend it, helped me process some stuff. What are you doing to break this dependency?

I will have to pick up that book. I catch myself always asking her for permission to do things with the kids. I do this mostly to be polite. It feels rude to tell her what I want to do. Hopefully this book can help with that. There seems to be a fine line between cocky and confidence.

One thing one of the women from here told me early on was that women don't find dependent men that sexy. They want confidence and self assured men.

I get exactly where you're at. I understand taking your vow seriously and wanting what's best for kids, I also hear you saying at this time your W doesn't share your view and I feel your frustration. Until you say screw it and take real control of your life your frustration is only going to build. I pray that your W will have that moment of clarity but the reality is she's on a different path. I'm not trying to discourage you or telling you to lose any hope (I still have hope and I'm D'd), I just see there is so much more for you. And that stuff I see may just get your W's interest...

Being reject from the person you expected to spend the rest of your life with really beat down my confidence. I am becoming better physically and keeping a PMA and that is helping. Having a beautiful nuclear family together boosted my confidence. Sounds shallow but I thought I had it all.