Questions without answers...will the hurt stop?

[albamarie]

I bet when your H told your S22 that he wants to leave but you won't let him, he meant that HE doesn't want to leave you!

Linda, it's SO funny that you say it this way, I never thought of it like this! The funny thing is H has said this to me and I only believe it or want to understand it when you say it!

I have told him countless of times he's free to leave, he doesn't want me to set him free, he said he's trying to leave himself, not me. Even if he physically left he wouldn't be gone, but, I am the obstacle in his journey, or, am I what saves him from destruction?

Whatever, it's his journey and I am doing well at detaching, thanks for noticing. I'm steadily looking for a new career as mine is gone....even if I work it won't help him because he needs to be the provider, but it will help me tremendously and that's my journey.

My kids understand that he is floundering and hate that he won't reach out. My BIL called asking H to church, or IC, or private spiritual C, H refused all, so BIL said to me privately that this is no environment for a new baby (8/24).

It's not an environment for any of us! Where putting in the overtime prayers that this will be a game changer, either way!

Thanks so much for posting...I am far from his cliff...there were days I wanted to rope myself to him so he wouldn't fall. Today I don't even watch