own a buz - pt 12 ... taking him off the pedestal

[RosaLinda]

"As mentioned, I had a councelling session yesterday. 3 hours worth!! He is trying to teach me about acceptance and that things happen for a reason. He said that I need to accept that this is where I am now, and to call out for a better union. To envision a happy union where H is healed and I am stronger. A better relationship from what we had. This had to happen. To have a PMA. More positive thinking. He also wants to strategize with me. For example, the business meeting suggestion. He says that right now, even my voice can come across as a "nag" in his ear. Whethe r I am complimenting or complaining. No difference. He is understanding that h is extremely overwhelmed and I have become a commodity. Another thing nattering at him, that required attention. I was the easiest thing to let go out of all that he carries on his plate. My job now is to remove myself from his "duties", so that I can be viewed as an individual again."

Your counselor says your H views you as a commodity? And your voice is a nag? Wow Magic, that's rough. Did he give you any solid advice about how to remove yourself and be seen as an individual?