Rick, I don't have any significant tangible updates at this time. Of course, that could all change in the blink of an eye.
We have been waiting to hear back from her L for 6.5 weeks now on the D agreement stuff.
I do know when my S has been visiting my W, she has been a little lax on attending to his needs. I realize it's summer, but she hasn't been making him shower, many times the laundry's not caught up, and she has very little there for him to eat. He says she spends very little time with him - most of the time she has her head buried in her phone or laptop or she's talking on the phone.
My S has told me my W is actively dating. That would have hit me like a ton of bricks a couple of years ago. I surprised my myself about how much I really didn't care when he told me that, at least for my sake. For my S's sake, it's a different story. She has been going through a pattern of dating several men in serial. Within days, she has brought the guy to her house. Then they break up and she's sad, according to my S. IMO, the way she's handling the dating is totally inappropriate, whether we're D or not.
It's become very clear she is unwilling and/or unable to work on herself. She's looking for someone else to fix her. She's disappointed every time.
My W continues to make herself more unattractive to me as the months go by. She is continuing this downward spiral. Meanwhile, I feel like the Lord is leading me in an entirely opposite direction. It just seems like we're getting further and further apart. Yet, that all being said, if she were to wake up one day and without a shadow of doubt say she wants to rebuild the M, there's a chance I would be receptive. That is, if I saw clear evidence she was changing the path she's currently on.
