Falling Down 100....Getting Up 101

[RosaLinda]

My H's family knows about him and the Tramp too. My family lives scattered all over the country, but my H's lives near us and they all knew that he had disappeared for two weeks. It was like your description "One day, he just vanishes. Poof! White Rabbit." Except that he came back. Boy oh boy was my MIL angry. At him, but angrier at me I think, because I let him come back home. She even said that it was "all my fault" because I "let him get away with it." Sometimes it's hard to DB when people are giving you advice like that. Then when he told her he is going to Moscow for a month, she was all over me. So...I broke with protocol and explained to her that I think he's MLCing. And she seemed to embrace this wholeheartedly, and advised me to GAL, to give him space, and to wait for him to wake up! I was flabbergasted!

What does your family say Portia? And how are you doing really? I think this no contact must be harder on you than having to see their lying faces every day. I hope you really are detaching and are having a good summer so far.

Earlier you wrote "Here is something else that I have truly come to accept. I would not want to be what he has become - a cheat, liar, betrayer and abandoner. Maybe he does not treat everyone that way, but you only need to murder one person to be a murderer. If he ever comes out of the tunnel and has to deal with this, I think it would be difficult for him. It would be for me, as I cannot think of any worse things that I could be called. Especially to a loved one." I truly believe that he will wake up and realize what he's done, and try to return to you someday. I know you'll have a hard decision then. But until then, keep detaching, my friend!