Your children are not "young" children, they know what is going on and they need to process it. If you are equally insisting on dissecting their feelings as their father is on them accepting his way of doing things, your young men get caught in the middle. Doesn't matter the intentions of either you (concerned and worried) or you H (selfish) - the middle is the middle.
Yes Portia, I think you understood what I was saying spot on. I am trying to learn from this and grow...and I am still at times (where my boys are concerned) confused on what is doing the "right" thing for them. It is tough. But I did learn/realize that they are confused about their emotions too and understand WAAAAYYYY more than I thought. I guess for me I am learning they need space too to figure things out. Hopefully they will feel comfortable with how the future plays out for them...I just want them to be happy and have a life they want and need.
BombOctober 2012- OW 11/28/12 -H still denies Separated 11/29/12 Own place 12/12/12 Confessed OW/EA/PA 2/2/13 Oct 2013 - I knew I was done Jan 2014 - Anticipating the rest of my life
