Reconcile? I don't think that's really something to worry about right now, do you?
As for the house and the missed opportunities - why not let him know that? Let him know, hey I missed some opportunities in the past to settle this, how about we save ourselves some time and money and go back to that? What do you say?
He might say no or he might spew. Or he might say yes. Check wiht your L but I see no downside. If he wants to gloat and say, "if you had done that before, we could have been done with this" then let him. He's right, but that's not really important.
On that note, being right is not important, is it? It seems to be for you. Fairness is not a term I'm familiar with when it comes to divorce. Anger is. And it's been my experience that anger clouds judgement and perspective.
It's a tough spot. But it's not impossible to get to a better place.
Make sense?
Peace, AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
