They win.. I am broken

[RosaLinda]

Hi Limbo. Glad to hear there haven't been any more attacks, and that your H "broke up" with Junkie Whore. Yes, that IS messed up, but I so long to hear those words from my own H. I did with his first EA, back in 9/2011. She apparently sent him a message meant for another man LOL. He was SO p!ssed! And told me he realized that I was worth 10 of her. But what did he think, that she was over there in Russia living a celibate life while he was here in NY living with his wife?!? Maybe the trouble is that they don't think!

"H says he still wants to divorce because we can't keep going on like this. whatever this is.... H wants to get his own place as soon as possible and said that I wouldn't like his roommate or who he had stay over night. It hurts me so much when he talks like that but I keep it to myself."

That D-as-soon-as-possible talk is just part of the usual MLC dribble script. Don't make that easy for him and I doubt he'll carry through. And to say that you wouldn't like his roommate! Not if it's a woman! 

But where is he living now Limbo? Still sleeping on someone's floor? Is he finally paying the mortgage and bills?

"H says he is very depressed and is upset about his life right now. All he says he is doing is sleeping and working. I am more confused now than I have been."

Oh Limbo, that's because he's confused. And unhappy. Bluedown is right, don't get on your H's roller coaster. Their confused minds go from one thing to the next so fast. It makes your head spin. I find myself pondering something my H has told me, only to hear he has changed his mind and is on to something completely different 10 minutes later. It keeps happening, and I keep falling for it. I think the important thing for us is to know who WE are, to have a stable consciousness of our own worth as a person. Because our Hs need us to be their rock of sanity. And that's so hard while we're living with their insanity!!!