Stuck between a rock and a hard place!

[MrBond]

"I got confused about my W's needs because after the letters she wrote to me about how she felt, it morphed into her needs to be divorced"

I don't know HOW MANY TIMES I HAVE TO TELL YOU. WHAT SHE WROTE IN HER LETTERS IS HER NEED. THE DIVORCE SHE IS ASKING FOR IS A WANT IT IS NOT A NEED! I don't know how much clearer I can make this.

"Once she decided she wanted D, the problem became that I wasn't honoring her wishes for D, not that I wasn't taking care of her needs from the past."

You don't get it! YOU not taking care of her needs from the past AND now are what's driving the D.

"I'm sorry that I wasn't able to address that in the small time frame I had. Not trying to make excuses again,"

BS, you are. You knew for weeks that you had no money and rather than looking at other options, YOU made the decision to move back home without telling your W. AND instead of talking to her about it, you just dropped off your bags which she discovered. THEN it was a few days until your C session and you STILL didn't talk to her about the safe word.

STOP MAKING EXCUSES FOR YOUR INABILITY TO ACT and stop blaming me and the other posters for your fears. If you don't act on what is suggested, why do you keep asking for help? Why do you keep arguing with me rather than actually doing something different, which is just doing something.

That is what I've gotten sick of. You constantly present yourself as the victim when for years your W was. AND you acted erratically and oftentimes pretty crazy. She was in the right.

"but I know I cannot control how you feel or act."

Don't even try DBing me. DB your W.