Stuck between a rock and a hard place!

[dorightman]

what are you asking when you want to know if I mean you should give her a D? You can't NOT give her a D, you understand? You can be a jerk about it or not, is what I'm saying. Which do you think MIGHT save your relationship?


Of course not being a jerk about it is my best shot.

I'm being obtuse, on purpose, to get you to clarify your own thinking. Don't imagine that this is a battle between Divorce and Divorce-Busting, because it's not. Divorce will happen if W wants it to, no matter whether you behave honorably or not, manly or not, kindly or not, but what kind of person are you? Divorce-Busting techniques are not just DB techniques, they are the right way to behave, and you know that too. You were probably hoping they were this thing you do to save your marriage, and if it doesn't work, oh well, you quit doing them. Now that you know what DBing is, would you stop doing it?

I won't stop using DB techniques whether we D or not.

Advina, thank you! I certainly will give this my best shot no matter what.