detaching/going dim

These are not interchangeable. Google livestrong developing detachment. I think it will help you see the difference.

Detachment is very different from being emotionally unavailable, not present or depressed. This is an important concept for all your relationships.

Love David Sedaris! I should get his latest and read it because he always makes me laugh out loud.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss