I know FT is getting a broken man, I know she isn't getting all of him. But he IS treating her the way he should be treating ME. And that has been a tough pill to swallow.
I know how hard it is, T, and how very hurtful. I had commented on Linda's thread that I remember my xh getting all dressed up to go meet her and he was in a frenzy trying to get out of the house. I remember thinking, wow, look at him. He hadnt dressed up to take me out in so long. He was taking her to all the best places, tripping over himself to do it.
Until I started thinking, look at him. Trying so hard to get her because he is feeling so badly about himself. Trying so hard to impress someone so unworthy. He could have bought her a castle, but, at the end of the day, he was still broken, she was still nothing and me, well, I was amazing.
I would never lie to you, T. It still hurt, but, it hurt a lot less. Because the way he was with her wasnt who he was. It wasnt him. He was desperate to stop the pain. Desperate enough to be someone he wasnt. It was more sad, than hurtful at that point. He wasnt the man I knew with her. That man wouldnt be doing what he was doing. She was getting someone else.
And T, you dont really know how it is between them.
H seems to be fluctuating between avoiding looking at me/giving me eye contact, to staring at me and wanting my attention. Go figure.
Yea, he is feeling the guilt and feeling the change in atmosphere. Too bad for him.
Detaching best I can here folks, but it is tough.
It is tough, especially with young children. You can only do the best you can, T.
