7 months pregnant ... Facing separation

[lost_hope]

Thanks slow_it_down, my H is also doing this to lash out and you're right I will leave him alone. He has already since called me in a calm manner to discuss the condo and house closings, so he has already turned down that rhetoric. What happened today is that there was a heated discussion bc I guess I was misreading his buying the house with me as him perhaps wanting to give our family one more shot. My wires got crossed and for a few minutes that caused a severe argument and one of my famous crying/screaming/blaming (though not begging and pleading) meltdowns. To get me back for my meltdown he threatened me and threw in the bit about separation terms for good measure. Sigh.

Anyway, now that I am absolutely 100 % clear and no longer interested in DB I will just proceed without any expectations whatsoever. The damage to this M is done and he has hurt me one too many times. It hurts, I am so sad and lonely, and I want my friend and H back especially for my son BUT that is not the way my life is shaping up so I have to put on my big girl panties.

As for the separation terms I am going to let him proceed as he wants. As I mentioned in your thread I am satisfied that he will be paying 1/2 the mortgage and I will leave him alone for other things for now. I will let him see his son as much or as little as he wants. And I will let him stay with us (in guest room) as much or as little as he wants.

I am going to stay at home until the new year. I won't let this S/D or him affect the joy I want to give my son for the remainder of the year, so I will wait to file until I go back to work in the new year. But I have decided once and for all that I will indeed be filing. I can't have a PMA and be with him at the same time. We are not good for each other and our relationship is toxic.

Anyway, done rambling.