I am so sorry you are going through this. I don't have good advice on this one bc I am terrible at these types of things (part of my problem). When I feel like something is wrong I say so, I cry so, I yell so, etc. This is part of the reason why although it seems counterintuitive I am buying the house with him. He has now committed himself to paying 1/2 of living expenses automatically deducted from our joint account. So unless he wants to screw up his credit rating or he loses his job that's one big expense I don't have to worry about sharing for now. I won't even ask him for money for the other things for now.
Again, sorry you're going through this. You may have to just calmly have a talk with him and ask him for "x" amount in the mail. It is not fair for you to have to do it on your own. But I agree a court order is not going to do anything to further a civil relationship especially in the short term when you need it the most. Is he perhaps having financial difficulty now (clearly he didn't when he bought his new toys).
Me 35 H 34 DS- newborn 8/13 T 8.5 M 7 H's EA - 10/11 INILWY 5/13 DBing 6/13 Don't know WTF to do 1/14
But I agree a court order is not going to do anything to further a civil relationship especially in the short term when you need it the most. Is he perhaps having financial difficulty now (clearly he didn't when he bought his new toys).