I don't know your situation but I'm sure this is Not a one size fits all.
The issues are usually centered around Not pursuing, versus those who need pursuit due to the dynamics of their situation. Love Languages play into this as well.
My former BIL left my sister after 22 years if m, and 3 kids...On their anniversary, He sent flowers with a note saying "it's still worth remembering."
Though my sister shed some tears, she was also very touched.
Hope, if there are children from the marriage, isn't it true that If the only way you could have those children in your life - was to endure all that you have endured,
you would do it all again, in a heartbeat? (That's good for your kids to know as well, btw). IMO there's nothing wrong with acknowledging the gifts the marriage will always have provided...
I assume your issue, Hope, is that you do not want to appear to be pursuing her? Is there a way you can show gratitude for the kids and a PMA, without appearing to pursue her?
I will have to review your thread perhaps.
Good luck
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
