7 months pregnant ... Facing separation

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Hey lost_hope,
I'm sorry to hear he's still giving you a hard time. The good news is that unless there is abuse/drug use/ criminal activity, I can't imagine any reasonable court taking custody away from you. Most courts like to keep the child with both parents as best they can and can help you come up with reasonable visitation.

It sounds like your H is just grasping at anything he can control in this situation and is using threats on what will rile you up the most. If you can find the strength to not let him get to you when you get into a conversation you will gain incredible power when you talk. Once you argue back it just fuels the fire.

Unless he's willing to talk calmly/fairly about separation/divorce/custody/support terms I would just seek actual legal counsel if you have concerns about what he is threatening to do rather than talking to your H about those things. I know my H only brings up D talk or threatens to get a lawyer when something else is bugging him. He's tried several tactics to rile me up and because I haven't bitten he keeps looking for ways to bait me into being angry with him.

I don't want to defend your H, but if he's feeling trapped/pressured he's going to continue to act out. Since he's the father of your baby he will be in your life for a long time. The sooner you can let him alone to just do his thing and work out his own issues the sooner he might get back to being someone reasonable that you can tolerate being around.