I would recommend that you start focusing more on the positives instead of the negatives. When you focus on the positives, you get more of them.
Examples:
As I was getting ready to leave he mentioned that he put some fresh macadamia & choc chip cookies in my car for me and my daughter as well as his computer.
It was a nice, small gesture on H's part. Did you acknowledge it and thank him for these cookies?
He also mentioned that he was going to keep the pressure washer out and handy as I think he wants to do this together again, soon. I think he was suggesting that, but I interrupted him.
Why would you want to interrupt him on this? I think it would have been a wonderful bonding activity for you and H. Don't turn down opportunities like this from H. Showcase a new, upbeat Magic and that would have been fun with soapy suds flying around! It was a missed opportunity on your part.
He said definately now that we are done our audit, he was going to enjoy.
He's telling you that the major stressor is now checked off and he's feeling really good about the audit being completed. Perhaps you can show some appreciation by bringing him is favorite drink or food. Just have a bit fun....say, "H, partner! We're doooone with the audit. Yay! Here's your [favorite drink]." Find creative ways to keep things positive instead of going into a snit about not having a relaxing evening together. Your expectations of "having a nice evening together and relaxing" is a tad high...it was not met and thus you got disappointed. Key is to keep your expectations at zero.
It was a missed opportunity on your part.