AJM, the anger, thankfully, dissipated a while ago. What I am most challenged by is the lack of security. My H has offered me the house so many times and then gets mad and retracts his offer. This part of the settlement should be a non issue at this point. We should only be focusing on the remaining issues (minor) that we hadn't previously agreed to. I don't know who is driving this, the attorney or my H, but it's definitely not a good faith effort.
I'm finding it so hard to allow communication with someone who continues to blame and create problems. My H hasn't shown growth at all so he still approaches problems the way he always has. He doesn't seek to understand and solve issues. He spends a lot of time telling people why they're wrong and why their way of thinking doesn't make sense. Throughout the D whenever we have hit a snag he just says "I'm done!" rather than stick it out and work toward resolution. He is very young emotionally. I guess I keep approaching this as if I'm dealing with a fully evolved person. I honestly don't have a clue as to how to handle this. I know what I want to do which is apply all of my growth, but I don't feel confident, rather I'm fearful, of the response. We don't need attorneys to negotiate a settlement. We need a therapist.
