Right. She will PON. She will act out as if you are her dad or some other authority figure.
The question is what are you willing to put up with and until when? You have a lot invested and seem to want to see it through. I applaud that. But you don't have to take the cr*p that comes with it. Believe me. Saying something is not a problem nor a deal breaker. Figuring out how to say things in a low-conflict sort of way is the trick. Being able to say something and know you'll accept whatever blow-back comes with it is also important. You can do both. She may still leave no matter what you do. She will likely want to be "right" and will make you out to be the bad guy no matter if it's truth or not.
Telling her you won't take the bad mouthing or name calling rather than meeting that challenge with force may get you some better results overall.
Something to consider.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
