Accepting that it is your WAS's need and desire sounds like the worst thing you could possible do if you care about the marriage, but it's the only way that Chinese finger trap can get the space to release its tension. If she ever might change her mind that's the only place she could change it from.

I understand this Advina. Does this mean that I give her a D? OR Does it mean that I continue to use DB techniques ?

Me:46 W:40
M:10 T:17
D:9 S:6
BD:12/11
ILYBINILWY:8/12
Served 2/13
I moved out 2/13
I moved back 6/13
W moved out 9/13