Stuck between a rock and a hard place!

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DoRight,

I just read this whole thread and what stands out in an overwhelming way is your refusal to listen and to use the advice given to you by Mr. Bond.

It seems as if you have never read DB, DR or any other threads on here to learn and grow. You keep saying that you want to work this out and you can't because of your W.

Stop blaming her. You are right, she doesn't want to work things out right now. However, if you read the books and other threads, you will understand that the entire point of DBing is to work on YOURSELF. Your wife has noticed some change in you but not enough to make her want to R. That doesn't mean she won't in the future if she realizes you have made these changes for yourself (not just to get her back) and that they are real.

You say you are getting better and learning to detach but you aren't detached at all. Every post is about how you want her back. I just read 6 weeks of posts and don't see any changes in you from beginning to end. You MUST LET HER GO and you need to listen to her. You are talking about discussing a safe word with her when she just told you she is moving out if you are staying. This shows her that you don't care about what she wants and that you aren't listening to her.

Start reading threads and learn how to truly detach. Start GALing and become the best you that you can be.

Then, maybe, one day, you will be able to R with your W.