Stuck between a rock and a hard place!

[dorightman]

Those are all things we wish wouldn't happen, but again, you can't control your W. If she wants a D, she will get a D. Pushing her not to probably pushes her more toward doing it.

Agreed, and my W says she will take the high road.

Being so focused on your W that you curl up in a ball if you D won't be helpful to your kids.

I won't do this, I just have some sad moments because I don't want a D.

And you can actually look at this in a positive way. As Cadet says, you've been given the gift of time. If you think a D is a very real possibility, even more reason to work on you so you can mitigate the negatives inherent in a D.

Take a parenting class, join a D support group, find your spiritual center, get a hobby, meet new people.

Good advice, thx Advina!