Not posting much lately, but reading and following you. I just love your perspective and am trying to learn from it. You sound good...
Sending you lots of hugs! ((((((((bug))))))))
Me & H: 44 D7, D6, S3 Together: 20y, M: 17y EA: 11/13/10, Sep: 12/23/10 EA becomes PA: Spring 2011 H filed for D: 09/06/12 D Negotiating began 2/15 OW seemingly gone on 3/15 Still negotiating D
When You asked how I've been here without you I'd like to say I've been fine and I do. But we both know the truth is hard to come by And if I told the truth, that's not quite true
Some days are diamonds some days are stones Sometimes the hard times won't leave me alone Sometimes a cold wind blows a chill in my bones Some days are diamonds some days are stones.
I'm accepting the stones along with the diamonds, finding that the pocket with the diamonds is getting full faster.
I had another lesson in letting go last evening. Chatting with S24 (he's in Canada) he told me that GF is coming here with him and they're getting an apartment. He still has 2 semesters of school before he graduates. I sorta knew this was coming based on other things he's said in the past weeks.
My first reaction, NOOOOOOOO! But I kept my mouth shut and listened. They've done a lot of planning and thinking about this. They're adults, it isn't my life.
I don't know what the future holds for them other than I will love him and get to know, and I hope love, her.
Letting go gets easier every time I do it.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
Hi Bug! So happy to read your thread today. It's inspiring and always makes me think better thoughts.
I'm so glad you managed to hold in that NOOOOOOO! I know it must be so hard if you think they're making some kind of mistake, but your objections won't save these adults from making their own mistakes, will they? You might even be wrong about it being a mistake; it might be a well considered and good plan for them. Ya never know.
How wonderful to be 24 and in love.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
You echoed my thoughts almost word for word, Ad. Truth be told, I'm a bit envious.
Although my initial knee jerk reaction was Nooooooo, I don't think it is a mistake. They will learn, they will grow, they will fall down. They will get back up.
I left him with this: Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
What a pretty trail you must leave, bug! All sparkly.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
I'm looking for a rich cougar. hahahahahaha who luvs ya?!?!?!