Stuck between a rock and a hard place!

[labug]

To piggy back on what Ad said, continuing to focus on the your W as the bad actor in this drama, is already leading you down the path toward making the D worse for the kids than it need be. Laying all the blame on her, you could end up with the the "See I told you so" response, either spoken or thought, every time the kids have an issue.

That doesn't lead to finding creative solutions. And if you want to truly co-parent, both parents have to feel respected.