Stuck between a rock and a hard place!

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Those are all things we wish wouldn't happen, but again, you can't control your W. If she wants a D, she will get a D. Pushing her not to probably pushes her more toward doing it.

Being so focused on your W that you curl up in a ball if you D won't be helpful to your kids.

And you can actually look at this in a positive way. As Cadet says, you've been given the gift of time. If you think a D is a very real possibility, even more reason to work on you so you can mitigate the negatives inherent in a D.

Take a parenting class, join a D support group, find your spiritual center, get a hobby, meet new people.

Don't talk about the R with your W. She's told you what she wants. Believe her.

Do you read Spartan's thread? If not you might want to.