I go between feeling optimistic and fatalistic because of always trying to do the right thing and hitting a brick wall over and over again.
I would guess that's because you want to change your W more than you want to change you. The key to this is focusing on the only person you control...You.
I know, we ALL want our marriage to be saved. That's why we came here but we can't do that by making changes only to that end. You have to be in this 100% for YOU.
You didn't answer my question: What's the worst possible outcome of this? Really think about that. Will being desperate make any difference at all?
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
