Stuck between a rock and a hard place!

[labug]

I don't know if I've posted to you before and I didn't go back and read all your threads but wanted to respond to this, because it's the crux of about 99% of the threads on this board.

She wants D, I want to reconcile. This has been the problem from the start last August. You cannot work on a relationship with someone who refuses to. I really feel like there's nothing else I can do.

You're absolutely right, you can't work on a R with someone who refuses to. This line I really feel like there's nothing else I can do. is a cop-out because you can work on You. That's really your job in life, figure You out and become the best You possible.

Are you there yet?

Many times in the handful of posts I've read you say you've changed and she doesn't notice or care. You were together for 17 years and if you were uncaring, unfeeling, non understanding, overemotional, not matter what it was-6 months of change is not enough to make anyone believe that things will be different.

You can keep working on you and let W do whatever she wants to do. Her life is her business.

You sound desperate and I get that, you want what you want but we don't always get that in life. Desperation doesn't help.

What's the worst possible outcome of this? Really think about that. Will being desperate make any difference at all?

You are driving this train right now with your reactions. Stop focusing so much on W and focus on making yourself better. Getting control of your self.

I know this is tough, but you can do this.