I'm doing well focusing on my issues, reading books that are directed to women and self-help, etc. I'm not expecting anything from H, just trying to co-exist nicely. We still have some negative interactions, though, because H still wants things from me that I'm not up to providing him.
So we had another odd exchange today. I just have to note this somewhere and maybe mull over it again later. Right now, it's just too odd. H: .... and you won't let me garden with you. CV: I haven't wanted you to garden with me for over 10 years, I don't understand why you're still bringing it up. And I don't understand how you think it's supposed to work. For example, if two people are doing something together, and person A does something offensive to person B, and person B asks person A to stop but person A continues to do it anyway, it makes the interaction un-enjoyable for person B. In your mind, what happens next? H: Well person B would probably stop that interaction with person A. CV: That's what I would expect as well. But then why do you expect something different in regards to my gardening with you? H: (long silence) CV: H? H: I only answered that way because that's what would happen in a perfect world. CV: (huh?) Okay, and how would answer it for the "real" world, since we don't live in a perfect world. H: In the real world, people forgive each other over and over and still manage to have a loving R. CV: (huh?) If that's the "real" world, then how do you explain the fact that 50% of M's end in D? H: They're not living in the real world. CV: (huh?!) What world are they living in?
At this point, H stopped talking. I suspect he started hearing himself and realized that he wasn't making sense. But before then, he appeared dead-serious. He never came back later to explain what he was saying, or even to suggest that he was only joking. He was not smoking or drinking. It was one of the oddest conversations I've had with him.
