She's right PON - you don't need to justify or explain being a good father to her.
Your wife's comments - especially the "father of the year" one - reek of jealousy and resentment to me. Maybe she does know that she's been a less than stellar mother of late, but would never actually admit it. Perhaps she feels guilt over how she is acting, sees how the kids respond to you versus the way they respond to her.
That's her problem to deal with.
And to ensure you're not just the "fun dad" as she claims, make sure you're also helping with the everyday not so fun stuff - laundry, homework, cleaning...
Don't ever apologize for being a good dad. You just keep loving those kids.
Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me
~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."
