The Easles rock! that is a perfect MLC soundtrack. LOL!
I feel like with each, my H gave a part of himself that was supposed to be special and only for me to someone else. And I feel like once that happens, you can't undo what has already been done. The damage is there. What was once sacred is cheapened and broken.
I do understand your feeling that way, T. I do. As I posted to Linda, what he gave to her is nothing like what he had with you. It just isnt. She is getting a broken man, T. He is showing her only what he wants. It is not real. It is not based on love and committment and history. She is not getting the parts of him you know. She is getting a shell of him, a ghost. You cannot give of yourself when you are not whole. You cannot give of yourself when you are not well. You cannot give of yourself when you are still investing in your family.
But I have been assured by some pretty reliable people that trust can be restored and a M renewed. Plus I am working on not getting ahead of myself lol!!!
That's my girl.
Oh the texting...
You are right UW, this is so excruciatingly slow, it is enough to make a person (me) go batsh!t. I mean if a cat has nine lives, how many freakin lives does this damn affair have?!?!? Just die already!!!!
Ah, I remember the feeling so well. I am not going to lie, it suckked. Remember the end comes when your h has some realizations. You cant rush this. You want him to really be ready to start doing the work.
It is just a strange shift since he has returned. I've had to adjust my approach and give him some more space, where as before he left I was stepping it up. And since we can't even begin to imagine what happened on that trip or what's precipitating now, backing off is really all I can do.
Yep, you are right. You have such good intuition, T. Leave him to it.
Pop some popcorn people, a big ol' tub of it. I still have this gut feeling that things are going to get very interesting at the casa de TVS.
Got my popcorn and my comfy chair. hang in there, sweetie.
