Narcissism = the "me" show to the ultimate extreme. Really hard core narcissists are often abusive and can be sociopaths, cult leaders are often thusly labeled. They are arrogant, self centered, callous, lacking in empathy, need admiration etc. It is often part of a larger problem including depression.

The intervening 15 years. Hmmm. Well for part of that time we were quite wealthy. H had his own business which was EXTREMELY successful. And OMG was he ever unbearable during that time period. Continuous parties, not a lot of qt with the kids. Drinking and I now know he pursued ow during this time as well. I don't know how successful he was, the only person he named he said, with such a "precious" pout in his voice, "But she turned me down." But he was a good looking rich guy so I'm gonna guess there were others with less scruples.

And then the business got shut down. And H swan dived into depression. But at the same time the kids started getting into sports so H became more involved with them. And he developed several small businesses along the way. Not terrific to me but, "ok". I guess this would actually be the "golden" years of our marriage. (How sad is that!?)

The squish game started about 6 or 7 years ago. This part, the squish and racism is fairly recent, the last third of our marriage I would guess.

I liked the "ring too tight" smile

I'm very tempted to text back with a suggestion he loosen his ring... wonder what he'd think of that? Lol. Would be a good time to have a hidden camera on him.

Me 46 H 56
M 22 yrs
S22, D20, Twin Ss18

You teach people how to treat you by what you allow.
What you stop.
And what you reinforce.
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A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.