Hi, chl0901, sounds like you are starting to make a lot of positive changes. I feel like we are in a similar situation, where our spouses are acting the same way in some areas. Keep it up. I agree with the others, to get out and about and keep busy, if his mood is affecting you. That is so hard to deal with, that is what I am going through right now as well. Do you have any other 180's you are trying?
My DB coach told me a few useful things today.. try to be a "solution detective", and really focus on what changes you are making that are getting positive responses, and start doing them a lot more often. (Test and Check) And if you are getting a negative response from him for something you are doing, or neutral response, stop doing it, or try something else. Seems like common sense, but something to think about!
M: 8 yrs T:14 Twins:7 S:5 BD:'NLILWY': Feb/2013 Mar/Apr/May: MC June: "living in limbo" Sept 12: H moves out Oct 20: reconciling Jan-Feb 2014:MC Feb 2014: separating, and H moved out.
