FY, she may say she is over what happened with her brother, but, that is not something you "get over" on your own. And having an abusive mother is extremely difficult to live through and rears its head later on if not dealt with in some way.
As far as the ignoring, I think that is confused with giving them space.
I really feel she cannot fully recommitt to you as long as she associates what happened in her childhood with what happened with you.
I think T was right with what she wrote:
Originally Posted By: takesvowsserious
I wonder if your wife still struggles with the reality of what happened to her all those years ago with her brother - and instead of dealing with that, she focuses on you.
I really hope that she begins to see that she needs to get help to deal with it all.
And you are doing the right thing in letting her talk, seeing she it is safe to do so with you and giving her plenty of space to figure it out.
Oh and I hope you dont mind, but, I want in when you take TVS out for her birthday. LOL!
