Me 8 months on, dark and trying to detach.

[hotwheelsaust]

Thank you GALbaby. I do feel the W is in a very difficult time, with the possibility of coming to terms with what is happening to her. I do have compassion for her, always have, and I have accepted this (possible PA) about her for quite a while now. It is very difficult for her to not show the basic signs of an affair (constant texting etc) when she is with the family.
In my honest opinion, I think she found and EA and either through my behaviours or something better it became a PA. I do feel that she will be condemned once or if the kids at school find out. I also think most teachers know about it at school also. Again it is the history of this other woman that makes people accept what is going on, rather than trying to ignore it as a ridiculous statement.
Me though, will not be discussing what I think is going on with teachers from her school, nor setting out to inform anyone about it.
I have to accept the W will not be coming back next year, therefore she will be stuck in the country for another year by herself (without me up here) and the friend.
With regards to the sons, you are right. I probably look at my Mum as only negative things that happened while growing up. Again all I can now do, is learn by my mistakes (plenty there) and be a better person and father.
I do feel there is very little hope for the M now, who knows many years down the track. Therefore I will be speaking with the DB coach on ways to move on a lot better. I honestly don't think anything I do anymore will make an ounce of difference to her.