HWA. Most WAS's deny their A's. You're W's situation is not just about a PA, but a PA with another woman. This is something that she is no doubt coming to terms with herself. It can't be easy for her to admit either to herself or anybody else.
The only thing might be, and as I said before, you're DB coach may have some experience with this, is that if she has realised her sexual preference is toward a female, then I am not sure you will make progress in this matter with her. I believe it would be an extremely confusing time for her.
No doubt its also very hurtful for you and you are coming to terms with your feelings about this new discovery, if it is true. To me, it does explain a lot about her behaviour. She must be trying to work through an enormous amount of soul searching. Have some compassion for her. If she "comes out of the closet", she will no doubt face a lot of condemnation. Its a fact of life unfortunately, not all of us are cool with it.
