My attorney asked me to extend the olive branch, suggesting a lot of language to use (former DBer?). So, I took a deep breath, made sure I had the best of intentions in my heart and called H. He didn't answer and I saw no need to leave a message. When he is ready he'll communicate. I will respect that.
Calling was odd after so much time (over a year), but also familiar. It seems like a lifetime ago that we talked throughout the day.
A relationship, of any kind, will not be restored quickly. I have no expectations, so no disappointment. H very much lives by too little, too late. He is not forgiving and likes to punish. He doesn't apologize, show gratitude or except shortcomings or faults. Maybe he will learn along the way and become forgiving when he is shown forgiveness.
