I might ignore the EA, but only after I made it clear (one time) that I felt it was inappropriate behavior in our M. It sounds like you have done that.
I would not ignore her. I would do my best to meet her needs and connect, without pursuing or smothering. In other words, only offer what she would accept. Ignoring W is too cold for me. That's not love, that's for when you're done.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
