I just spoke with my attorney. There's no reason to fight the bifurcation. I will likely be D'd on Monday. It's sad, but I gave it my best. I'm sure I will grieve a bit, but I need to focus on the business side.
It's clear that my former attorney created a lot of animosity and the present one would like to diffuse it. If she were just mediating between H and me she would likely be successful, but dealing with opposing counsel is another issue. He is young, likely has few clients and has a super big ego. This is about his win and the payout that follows.
As for Monday and going forward, I need to use all of my DBing skills to get through this D in order to get the best possible outcome for everyone. It doesn't serve my boys to be at odds with H. Fighting with him won't bring fairness or get him to see where he is wrong. It's hard to let to go of the need for an apology or to be given what I'm owed financially. Those things may happen, but not because I want them or I feel I'm entitled.
So, moving forward, and this is hard, I need to silence my ego and do the best I can to validate, etc. I need a script so I don't go off track. I would love advice and guidance from those of you that are so much better at this than I am.
