my boys are scared to do things with me as I constantly criticised them for doing it wrong. When? How? Why? I don't know or remember anything that resembled that, but this came from the boys speaking to the friend rather than the wife.
This reminded me of something that happened with my father. He took me out for one driving lesson when I was 17. After 45 minutes any confidence I had in my driving was pretty much gone. I said something like I'm nowhere near ready for my test if I'm this bad! He said I was really good. I said all I've heard is bad things.
He was only telling me when I didn't something wrong. No praise when I did it right.
After that the driving lesson went really well because he was communicating with me the way I needed him to.
Sometimes it can be what your not saying.
If I never said anything to him and then later my mother asked me how it went I could have easily said he just criticised me.
Obviously this could be nothing like what you are experiencing with your sons but it shows the situation is not always as we see it.
You could look at the same experience many times and not see the problem if your not equipped to see it. Rather than looking back trying to get blood from a stone just concentrate on future interactions. Look for your criticising or anything that coud be seen as such. Notice it, adjust what isn't working and move forward.
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