I feel I totally could yank him out of this, but then wonder the rest of my life when is he going back in. I feel like I need to see it through. It's not like I have other options I'm interested in anyway. My life wouldn't change much D or M to him at this point. Finances would. The time he spends with the boys would. So to me even if I wanted a D, I'm still better to wait.
I agree with you and understand, I know, without doubt, that this has to be W's choice to reconcile. Or not.
I learned this is phase 1 where IC and I "helped". I did get a nice 6 months or so of reprieve and illusion that all was going to be better...
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I hate that the test always seems to change too. What I sense from him is always changing, like at some points I feel like he wants me and at others he doesn't. I just don't know what is real or fake either. I think I do, but I can't ever be sure.
Yup...always changing as they work through their issues, and derivatives of those issues. It seems they must use the trial and error method instead of doing some thinking first...for now. I bet there is a lot of "background" thinking going on, H is probably not fully conscious of it yet. W has moved into thinking more. This is why we have to be as sure as we can of OUR paths, and plans, best to have multiple plans though...Plan A, Plan B, etc...good thing the alphabet has 26 letters so we can relax and not stress too much when Plan A fails, eh?
I think you are doing a wonderful job of being the lighthouse, the rock...our kids need that, even if our spouses think otherwise for themselves.
T^2
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
