He's sometimes there for the kids, and sometimes not. He doesn't put the kids to bed or getting them up and ready, even though I'm the one who is up multiple times during the night. He goes to sleep at weird hours, like 3am and sleeps until noon, like I remember doing as a teenager too. He likes to invite people over and is including me with his new group of friends. They're all right, but not at the same point in life as me: younger, not married, no kids, not much in common. He wants to go places with me, do the things I'm doing, but he also wants to have his nights out 3-4 times a week.
Raine - doesn't he have a job? How is he able to keep those hours?
This whole setup just sounds bad to me - no boundaries, no consequences. It would be one thing if your H was working on himself, but it doesn't appear that he is. Do you think he respects you for feeding and housing him while he sets up his dates with other women???
You've had a chance to show him the new you, to let him bond with the baby, and to remind him about how good family life is. But someday soon now, you're gonna have to set some boundaries. He can't live at home if he's still sleeping with other women seems to be a minimum reasonable requirement!
