but it's the fact that he talks to her for 2 or 3 hours every day, giving all of himself to her when he won't even say one word to me a lot of the time, that kills me.
Right. It's all about what they refuse to give us, while giving it to another. On some level, my W still connects with me emotionally, tells me about her life, thoughts and feelings, etc, but has cut me off physically. If she were then to give that to another, it would hurt A LOT.
Notice too, that many men in PA are still willing to ML with their W. Same thing, flipped around.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
