Ah Forever thank you that makes perfect sense. Even your last statement "For me an EA would never hurt as much as a PA." For me the fact that my H is emotionally connected to another woman, shares his thoughts and secrets with her, tell her he LOVES her is a killer. He could find someone to have sex with on the street corner. But I want his love and emotions beamed in my direction.
H told me RT is "nothing special" and that sex with her was not better than with me, just "different." so I guess she was "doable." but it's the fact that he talks to her for 2 or 3 hours every day, giving all of himself to her when he won't even say one word to me a lot of the time, that kills me.
Linda
Me 65, Ex 64 M 38 y 2 adult S, 4 G-Kids MLC 11/07 BD 12/09 D 3/14 Dating nice guy 7/14 Engaged to nice guy 12/17