Hi GM. I just posted on your thread today, also for the first time I think, though I do often follow along with your sitch.
I hear you about the gambling. I don't think its (the addiction) there yet, but I can see where its heading that way. Even if it could be maintained "as a job", its the sort of job that absorbs the "worker". There's a reason there are no clocks visible on the casino floor. So when, like Rip Van Winkle, the "workers" crawl out they are shocked to find 20 years have passed.
Gambling has come and gone in our time together, and has not yet proven to be destructive in the ways you have outlined so it doesn't get my full attention. I guess its all about perception? I definitely perceive ow, As, to be deal breakers. So far, not the gambling so much. If he skips work to gamble then that will definitely be a red flag and would get my attention.
I appreciate you taking the time to write to me. Your letter was thoughtful and kind. And I do have my antennae primed in that direction because there have been a couple of "off" things said of late that suggested a shift in H's approach to gambling. And now his stated intention to skip work definitely signals a problem.
Any way you slice it, there's a problem
Thank you again GM, and I so wish you the best of luck in court tomorrow.
PS, thank you too to Linda and Nero. Having give and take convos is such a benefit.
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
