H just text me this morning said he had been drinking last night and he slept it off and he is ok. Will I did not respond back to his text. I don't want to think about anything anymore. I just have to let it go and move forward now. On the other hand my boys and I had fun at the drive in last night. The only thing is if we ever go again we will not go to the dusk to dawn event again. It was super packed and it was so hard to get out we just stayed for one movie only. It was just way to much for my sons and I to be there.
M:42 H:37 M:14yrs S:13; S:9 Found out PA:8/2012 2nd PA & still w/OW:4/2013 H asked for D:6/2013 H moved out: 8/2013 H & OW moved in together: 8/2013
Sorry you are feeling down. Try to enjoy a good holiday with your boys and smile!
Me: 27 H: 27 Together: 11, M: 3 S 2 BD: 06/24/13 Living together H: EA - unknown current status Read: DB, 5LL (slowly reading DR) Back and forth we go...
Well done for not responding to his text Good for you for getting out and about with your boys as well You're going to have so much fun this summer!!
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Well its been 7 hours since I last heard for H and its been 3 days since my boys and I saw him. Oh well this is what he wanted to be free from us and to be with OW. Its still hard to try to let go and move on with my new life alone and trying to be the best parent to my boys. My biggest wish is for my two S's know that I have tried to keep our family together even though I made lots of mistakes on trying to fix our family. I'm still have lots of mix emotions on one hand I want to keep trying to save our family and on the other hand I know its pretty much done. One day I will have to seriously choice to keep working to savey M or just stop trying cause at this time he is done with our M. I have so much soul searching to do. Yes I believe I finally woke up to my new role as a single parent. My dream is hopefully I will be a good mom to my S's. Well thats is all for now. Happy belated 4th of July everyone
M:42 H:37 M:14yrs S:13; S:9 Found out PA:8/2012 2nd PA & still w/OW:4/2013 H asked for D:6/2013 H moved out: 8/2013 H & OW moved in together: 8/2013
Don't worry the tables will turn soon enough. You H will soon realise how much he's missing his sons, I know mine has! Have you searched for Joe Beam and his Pies yet? I find that really helpful and gives you something to go on. You seem more positive now and you've got a good mindset This is what you need to be thinking, he wanted some space from us, so I'll give him some space!
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
No I have not read any of Joe beam I'll take a look at it later tonight. I'm having a low morning I miss talking and seeing my H. He had come home in the last two nights but he came home really late on both nights. When I get up I just get ready and head out to the gym then straight to work. This backing off is so hard to do I so wish he would just come back to our family already. I know its going to be a long long waiting process that he may or may not come back to our family. He still hasn't said anything more about us getting a dissolution of our marriage so I'm hoping that i still have a chance on saving our marriage I just have to keep backing off even if it keeps killing me to break any contact with him unless it has to do with my sons and or if it is important things that I need to ask him. I miss just having a conversation with him or even spending a small time with him.
M:42 H:37 M:14yrs S:13; S:9 Found out PA:8/2012 2nd PA & still w/OW:4/2013 H asked for D:6/2013 H moved out: 8/2013 H & OW moved in together: 8/2013
Hi kelela, hope you are feeling better now. Regarding joe beam and his pies is that a book title? I've seem to see it being mentioned around here lately
And remember that even divorce/dissolution doesn't necessarily mean the end.
Google Sheri and Bob Stritof. They were married for something like 8 years, there was an A and a D. 2 years later they remarried and have been together for over 40 years since.
I see you being easily defeated. Each new development sends you spinning into "its over forever now".
Remember, not only is this road very long, it also has potholes and twists and turns. Sometimes even detours.
I should practice more of what I preach here, but I do know and believe that the more we GAL and detach the easier this all is. But GAL and detach are works in progress.
One day at a time kaikaina. Keep breathing.
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
I've looked for Jim Beam and his pies. Although he comes up there isn't any information for me to read. He just comes up as someone who gives talks. Does someone have a link the could post?
M12 Kids 2 ILYBINILWY 08/05 Reconciled 05/06 S07/12 Moved back 03/13 Separated Again 06/24/13 Back Again (his choice) 02/14 Leaving again 03/23/14 DIVORCED 02/15
