Getting Uncomfortable

[RosaLinda]

I'm sorry J, I guess we "cross posted." i understand why you say "I feel hurt and taken advantage of to think that while I am taking care of H (cleaning, laundry, shopping, cooking, back rubs, companionship) during the week that he has a "weekend wife" who he lives at a hotel/casino with and "loves" but my question is the same -- why are you so sure the ring is connected to OW?

"I feel less concerned about him thinking I "snooped" since he went into his hidey hole in front of me. I'm not sure if he knows I know about it or not, but he didn't go to any effort to hide it from me yesterday.

It has finally occurred to me - sometimes I am astonishingly slow - that H doesn't "lie to me to not hurt me" but rather to not have to face any consequences. But, I don't think he knows that, I think he believes his own lies."

since he made no effort to hide it from you, you could just say somehing like "hey, where did you get that ring?" Then watch for that tell-tale sly gazing to the side thing men do when they lie. I'm sure they all lie for many different reasons, not having to face the consequences is tied in with not wanting to hurt you Mz. J. 

When does he return?