Take it to the limit

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Of course , Brnr😊。。。

You are loyal!! The only Leo trait my h has is that he growls!!

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Sorry , Tvs for the hijack !
Pls ignore those number characters!

[nero]

hey hi tv-

aquarius here - artsy & craftie - commitment issues - dedicated & loyal til death - liberal & softhearted - textile addict -

I HATE THE texting - i could take the phone and stick it in his mouth and then - well, i sound vicious. Sick to death of it- hate it= hate the stupid e-mails too. and then he wonders why i'm down on technology . "you jerk- i found out you ruined my world in a stinking sex e-mail- you run around hiding and texting like a 10 yr old moonstruck girl- is that enough???"

oh man- you're sure right this phase feels like forever. today i feel like it's been forever- can i shove it to back of my mind for another day? i don't know how you guys with them in your face allll the time manage. it's soo hard when he's here (tho he is doing nothing much in my face anymore) but then- he only shows up one week and then goes to fl for three. life sure svcks sometimes. i know i've got it better than alot- don't mean to gripe - just sayin.

mee too - this forum has kept me doing this- i never ever in a million years would have had the intestinal fortitude i think if i didn't know tons of folks were out there trying same thing- hoping- sucking it up. it's the injustice of it alllll.

thanks for askin about my organizing.

i have been selling antique dolls & some stuff on ebay- it's great but very slow & fiddlie - hard to make me sit down & do it. ( and not so lucrative for small things - the fees on the postage are as much sometimes as the item- ???- ) THAT TOO THO- STILL comes down to me and the "letting go" thing...

i despair sometimes - i feel greedy or grubby or something- i just seeee the great potential -

my organizing is plodding forward - - i get STUCK big time when it comes to actual picking it up and carrying it out Of the house..

i took three big cloths baskets of "stuff' down from attic- it's all stuff that needs alterations, finishing - i LOVE fabric (i'm seeing pillows- valences-quilts - fabric decopaged onto furniture - wall hangings appliqued flowers,rag rugs - wow -etc)(my addiction - textiles) - so tried to go thru realistically- what to give up on and chuck?

i can hardly throw anything away- have to recycle- rag - paint old galvanized tub pink & turquoise & put in garden for hose - a real sickness here.

my pile to get rid small - did it again- pile bigger-

now i am at that fatal stage that feeeeels soooo uncomfortable & makes me panic- BRAIN SAYS (what if i need it? what if i get really really poor and can't buy anything new - forever - what if i neeeeeed it- WHAT IF I GET fat, what if i get skinny - blah blah -) i've never been THAT poor that i was starving or something- you'd think i was.

SO- THIS A.M. -I AM HOPING that after having coffee for a bit i will address those piles again and MAKE THE DECISIONS. here's where it's hard to GET REALfor me.

you know- several times in my life when the decisions were HUGE- I COULD plunge rite in and KNOW THE right way. i mean BIG BIG ONES _ LIKE pulling plug on my favorite sister-

YET- FACED WITH THOSE PILES - i wiver and waiver and you'd think i never decided anything in life.....wtf??? (v. bad for my ego - this "STUFF " stuff...

YOU BEING AN ORGANIZER -

YOU SHOULD GO RITE OUT AND HANG OUT YOUR SHINGLE AND DO IT- it would be serving humanity. this is so traumatic and i need SOMEONE here just egging me on- saying nicely- you'll never wear it- it makes your hips look huge - DO you really love that fabric that much? chop it rite up now - just pile it in the garage and see if you look for it- so on- -

THERE are tons of guys like me out there- no hoarder by any means- just tons of great stuff in the attic & garage-- i stock pile great fabric and craft supplies (half done original rag dolls - old linens for all sorts of creations it's alll that stuff - how does one contain & store so it's seeable & findable easily - and then actually do allll the wonderful thigns i hae inmind.

that being said- i'm going to take a pretty antique dresser scarf i found & make a pouch thing to hang on side of bed for book & glasses - i need to JUST DO IT with using this stuff. it's great. i did cut a lovely gauzy dress in half and made two long valences from the skirt- on my front sunny hot windows in bedroom - turquoise backgr with giant yellow & purple flowers- it's glorious with sun shingin thru today-

I WILL GET THERE- IT'S just keeping focused. i go to put one thing in cellar and three hours later (and one painted wall_ ) i remember what i was doing upstairs - leaving a trail of half done - half painted - etc things. -


I CAN'T BELIEVE ANYONE LOVES IT AND IS GOOD AT IT. i think honestly i have the space to store things better - it's gotten out of hand -

I AM GOING TO DO IT THO- IF IT KILLS ME- AND HOPEFULLYSOON.

XXOO HOPE YOUR DAY is okay- i can't think about this yet - the "stuff" (if i only had a neice or sister who wanted it- i can give it away in a heartbeat if someone likes it and needs it- to a good home - eeeeek?????

[nero]

forgot to say- my h is a scorpio (my mother is a scorpio - madmom)

every good friend & bad enemy in my life is a scorpio (i am a power addict i guess)

they are tough - ruthless maybe - i read once if they don't get you (sting) with their claws - they get you with their tail.

may be true - begs the question why in the world am i sooooo fatally attracted to this poisonous sign????? SOME ARE WONDERFUL people THO- STRONG- purposeful, idk

[beatrice]

YOU SHOULD GO RITE OUT AND HANG OUT YOUR SHINGLE AND DO IT- it would be serving humanity. this is so traumatic and i need SOMEONE here just egging me on- saying nicely- you'll never wear it- it makes your hips look huge - DO you really love that fabric that much? chop it rite up now - just pile it in the garage and see if you look for it- so on-

I agree. I need an organiser who is kind and sympathetic and FIRM. Like Nero I see potential in piles of junk, but the truth is I would need serval lifetimes to do all the projects.

I also do the 'What if I am poor, What if I neeeeeeed it and then I will REGRET throwing it out' and so on.

And Scorpios yes, tricky people. My middle son who is adorable is Scorpio. You never know where you are with them, or how they will react. I am Taurus and very typical, i am told.

[RosaLinda]

Mz. J your H is a piece of work. These MLCers lie all the time, but lying about his sign? That is a new one on me! 

J and Raine, I'm Libra too, I think the indecisiveness helps me stand LOL! And Nero, my H is scorpio too. He's adorable and tricky like your son Bea, but sure has that stinging tail thing down pat! I hope your son doesn't lash out like that. 

T come and organize me please! That cardiac ablation I had in April started me thinking about my kids having to go thru my junk if I died. In my case it's papers. I have all of our bills and receipts, boxes and boxes. I think I could throw the old ones (38 years old ) away but am afraid of some crook getting our personal identification and don't want to go thru them all. Even shredding seems daunting! And I would hate for my kids to find my dozens of journals of my marital problems over the past few years. 

TVS my H is convinced he's going to die soon too. He finally decided to start taking ALL his medicine -- his heart pills for atrial fib, stomach pills for GERD AND antibiotic for the lymes. Thank God, I wonder if he told RT though. She does not believe in taking medication. But he's cooking up his oatmeal mess right now, so she hasn't lost all of her influence on his health sigh....

Doesn't the texting drive you NUTS!? I cannot fathom why someone who is carrying on a supposedly secret love affair does not shut off that annoying texting noise on their cell phone. My H turns the screen away from me (yeah like at 60 I could read it from even 2 feet away ) yet does not turn off that sound. 

I'm glad to hear uR's explanation for your H's serious expression while texting. I am convinced FT blew it at the beach, and agree your H is moving away from her. My H was exasperated on the 4th during his texting marathon too, very serious, on the verge of anger, while I was driving to his sister's party. But I worked a 12-hour day shift yesterday, so I'm sure they talked extra long, and am sure RT had a chance to soothe any ruffled feathers she caused by pulling his leash. 

Men don't like to be pushed though. Push away OWs of the world, you're digging your own graves. The more they push, the sooner our Hs will see who the real prizes are!

A question of the vets. How come our Hs have PAs with OW but our male counterpart LBSs W's have EAs? Although from my own experience, an EA hurts as much as a PA. 

[mizjjd]

Mz. J your H is a piece of work. These MLCers lie all the time, but lying about his sign? That is a new one on me!

His birthday is July 22, so he's on the "cusp" of Cancer/Leo, and prefers the reputation of Leo. My dad was a Leo too... and Snodderly you are an awesome specimen, just sayin'.

So you are thinking the PA v EA is a matter of gender? Or often so at least? And I'm with you on the EA hurting. This "ring thing"... H has sworn after being so miserable with me he'd never get married again. Ahem. That old song, "All of Me" becomes "All of You", as in just give her all of you... Its like being betrayed twice.

And please, bring some organization this way too. Never has been my strong suit. I'm a scrambler. Sometimes amazes me that all my children survived infancy/toddlerhood. Lol, but they did. I even got them their shots... just don't ask me where their records are...

Cheers.

[RosaLinda]

Hahaha J my H's BD is Oct 24th and he claims to have a lot of Libra traits but he is really pure scorpion I mean scorpio. He has a lot of infatuations/flirtations with numerous Russian language partners, at the same time, and tells them all he loves them. And the two serious EAs and one PA and tells them he loves them too. I guess actions speak louder than words but I'd sure be grateful to feel OR hear some love.

[ForeverYoung]

How come our Hs have PAs with OW but our male counterpart LBSs W's have EAs? Although from my own experience, an EA hurts as much as a PA. 

For women the emotional connection is often much more important than it is for men. They usually need to feel a strong emotional connection before they will drop their pants. Men not quite as much. If OW turns her eyes his way and is not completely hideous, she's doable. Way more so if he is in crises and searching for solutions.

For me an EA would never hurt as much as a PA.

[RosaLinda]

Ah Forever thank you that makes perfect sense. Even your last statement "For me an EA would never hurt as much as a PA." For me the fact that my H is emotionally connected to another woman, shares his thoughts and secrets with her, tell her he LOVES her is a killer. He could find someone to have sex with on the street corner. But I want his love and emotions beamed in my direction.

H told me RT is "nothing special" and that sex with her was not better than with me, just "different." so I guess she was "doable." but it's the fact that he talks to her for 2 or 3 hours every day, giving all of himself to her when he won't even say one word to me a lot of the time, that kills me.