Fartiltre, thanks again. I suppose again I am letting her dictate my life, but after 8 months of zero input from her and all the family telling me what they have concluded, it was simply my turn to learn something. Either answer wouldn't have made a difference, and maybe I should have thought more before calling. Seriously though, I have thought about doing this for the last 8 months. Someways I think it should have been done earlier, someways I wonder if it was a big, very big mistake. Alas it is done. You are right I really should have waited for the DB session before doing this. I say one thing and do a different thing. Why did I call? Especially when it doesn't make any difference? I suppose it was simply a finally need to know. Not to mention my forced flatmate also mentioned this morning about how I am about the only person in this town that doesn't see the W was in a relationship. I am trying my best not to let his words affect me, but again, when so little is said and done and I get blamed for all from all, you just make snap decisions. Thankfully the W didn't ring back or text. No more next times. I really do need to shut up, forget what she does or doesn't do (not that I see much of that). I really have to be more persistent with Sandi's rules. That is my hope. Along with patience and GAL. The time limit factor (transfer) does make it so much harder.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.